tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post2730729565860525024..comments2023-09-22T08:12:25.535-04:00Comments on THE PRIVILEGED ADDICT : Enabling Makes You SufferCharliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04183269305957041463noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-55018734501172849242015-11-14T18:31:40.055-05:002015-11-14T18:31:40.055-05:00Thanks, J. I have not done anything - frozen in f...Thanks, J. I have not done anything - frozen in fear, it seems. I think I need to look into both, the steps with support of some kind. Charlie's blog made me realize I am avoiding living my own life b/c of my full-time job of enabling. How embarrassing and completely eye opening at the same time - had never once considered that. I appreciate the kind words. Ready to start working on me/figuring out how to live/have a life - not sure I have EVER done that. XOXO Lornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-12193500983700901672015-11-14T10:19:48.573-05:002015-11-14T10:19:48.573-05:00Lor, hang in there sweetie. glad you found charli...Lor, hang in there sweetie. glad you found charlie and his blog. have you tried taking the steps? have you tried alanon or families anonymous? i've been an active member of FA for over 8 years now and it has changed me so much. i'm still a work in progress but i no longer feel lost. it is possible to have a life...xothe gardener's cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447809353998632722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-39770432840787300642015-11-11T12:42:22.858-05:002015-11-11T12:42:22.858-05:00Thank you, Jen. I am just lost. Thank you, Jen. I am just lost. Lornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-10946543199897849562015-11-11T11:48:16.983-05:002015-11-11T11:48:16.983-05:00Thank you for this post. Married to an active alco...Thank you for this post. Married to an active alcoholic for many years, I am trying to make changes in my life including understanding my role in our dysfunctional relationship. Your perspective is very valuable, and I'm grateful for you sharing it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-8059992358627211542015-11-10T18:33:14.677-05:002015-11-10T18:33:14.677-05:00Charlie has a way of delivering it much more eloqu...Charlie has a way of delivering it much more eloquently than I ever could. :) Praying you find peace in this answer, Lor. You aren't causing the consequence, hon. Her actions left you no choice. The turning point for me was when I hit rock bottom before him, and survival mode kicked in that I wasn't going out due to someone else's choices. Then I took my life back. Dr. Phil also has a saying that "we teach people how to treat us by what we allow". That was a hard thing to face when I stopped focusing on what he was doing and instead saw I let it go on. It's rough stuff. But you are in many prayers, and those times we don't have the strength, God carries us. Hoping you feel His arms around you, and feel comfort in knowing that you are cared about, even by us that you've never met. As Charlie said so beautifully, you deserve so much more. JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-89074261649640246912015-11-10T13:52:46.156-05:002015-11-10T13:52:46.156-05:00I originally not too long ago was directed to your...I originally not too long ago was directed to your site via an acquaintance, and this when it originally was posted was the very first blog post I read of yours. Does that mean I have come full circle or just running in circles? Thank you for reposting. I've read it so many times I may have to start quoting you. Thank you for your blog. More than you will ever know.Lornoreply@blogger.com