Friday, January 9, 2015

If You Want Answers, Observe

     For anyone who doesn't comprehend that our selfishness and cowardice preceded our physical allergy (brain disease), below is the complete list of searches that appeared on my stats page over the course of the day, and it is but one of many indications that addicts suffer from pathological selfishness, immaturity and a preoccupation with comfort, as opposed to the involuntary symptoms of a blameless genetic predisposition.

     Many parents and addicts alike swallow this stuff because they are blinded by the convictions they have about their children. Trust me, while your addicted child may very well be a wonderful, talented person, they did not just catch addiction and alcoholism in the air like a cold, nor were they powerless to avoid becoming an addict based on their DNA. That type of thinking is for those of us who want to remain brainwashed in the comfort zone of denial, which allows us to avoid the truth at all costs.

     Addicts and alcoholics made themselves addicts and alcoholics. Sure we lose control at some point, but the cultivation and maintenance of our 'brain disease' is the direct result of who we are and the actions we take. We become addicts by consciously doing the wrong thing, and we remain addicts so long as we continue to do the wrong thing.

     Those of us who recover are those of us who change and become willing to do the right thing. Those of us who get better are those of us who have instilled and nourished a moral compass, a compass that we refuse to ignore. Those of us who recover are NOT those of us who simply hit a few meetings and ply ourselves with suboxone, methadone, seroquel etc. If you look closely, you can see if your addict is the same sick person they've always been. You will see if they are still completely insane and ravaged by the poisons of rage, fear, dishonesty and weakness.

     Those who are recovered are completely different people. Those who are recovered don't lie anymore. Those who are recovered have God. 

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the privileged addict victim mentality
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addicts fucking selfish
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alcoholics are the most selfish people on earth

...and actually, the list goes on, but I'll spare you because the point has been made. Truth comes from observation, experience & practice.

God, please help those of us who still suffer find their way to You...

P.S. By the way, the new book is going well. I was going to post excerpts to keep the blog more active, but it's not edited (nor is it copyrighted), so I'm not gonna to do that.


  1. Wow...that list of search terms would be funny if it weren't so sad.

    Amazing that the medical system doesn't even acknowledge that selfishness if a part of this "disease." It's the root of the problem, and until the "experts" figure this out very few people are going to get truly helped.

    Keep up the good work, Charlie. I'm sure I am not the only one eagerly looking forward to your book. Ignore the blog for a while if you have to - the book is more important. :)

    1. So agree with you. I remember when I was being taught the Big Book and it stated that our primary problem centers in our minds, not our bodies, it hit me so hard because I knew it was the truth. Thank you about the book!

  2. I'm laughing at that list Charlie because those are some of my favorite articles you've written! I can't tell you what it means to me to be able to read those articles b/c they are evidence that I am indeed not insane and that it has been the manipulation and selfishness of the addict that made me think I was. I cannot wait for your new book!

    Btw - Happy New Year. Hope your lovely family is well - esp the new baby! xo

    1. Thank you, Janet, Happy New Year! Baby is in great health, and boy, what an angel. No, you're not insane ;-) In fact, you are quite wonderful and talented. xo


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