tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post2803146913642142030..comments2023-09-22T08:12:25.535-04:00Comments on THE PRIVILEGED ADDICT : Addiction & Recovery Charliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04183269305957041463noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-81281012471657670462014-05-18T19:52:57.718-04:002014-05-18T19:52:57.718-04:00Thank you for reaching out here and your honesty. ...Thank you for reaching out here and your honesty. Please feel free to email me directly and I'd be honored to share any insight/resources that might be relevant from my own experience in recovering.Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04183269305957041463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2530451786669304321.post-66345451990497290042014-05-07T15:53:18.817-04:002014-05-07T15:53:18.817-04:00I've just read both of your posts and want to ...I've just read both of your posts and want to applaud you on this one. <br /><br /> I am the parent of a heroin addict and believe as you do...the addict is selfish and a product of their own actions, it is not the "disease" that they hide behind. <br /><br />In my opinion, the disease discussion is similar to "what came first, the chicken or the egg?" You can go around and around with this theory and never come up with the answer. As in life, no one answer/treatment fits every person. <br /><br /> A cancer patient puts poison in their body because they want to get well. A diabetic injects insulin because they want to stay well. The drug addict...because they don't want to face responsibility.<br /><br />I am constantly astounded by the approach of so-called counselors. My daughter's excuse, according to inpatient counselors..."she is seeking the love she doesn't get from me."<br />What a load of crap! This is an only child who was raised as if the world revolved around her. But, she now has her excuse thanks to the professional help we thought we were paying for. <br /><br />As educated addiction specialists you would think they know that the addict is always looking for an excuse and knows how to work the system thanks to those who went before them. As a POA I learned this very quickly. In fact, I just remembered meeting one her "counselors" who was happy to admit to being in recovery. While I am happy she found sobriety and a purpose, she had no formal training (county program-court directed). You would think she of all people would understand the addicts behavior but she just perpetuated and regurgitated all you hea/ read about why addicts use and how to help them.<br /><br />I STRONGLY believe that the best person to counsel an addict is a POA. They are cynical and won't/can't be manipulated any longer. Sadly, we know all the "tricks of the trade".<br /><br />I don't claim to have any answers and believe there is hope for recovery but only when they really want it. She goes days without using so I know she can do it. She just CHOSES to continue using. <br /><br />It is at this point that my mind wanders to the concept of "unconditional" love. My daughter died the day she chose to put heroin in her body. She is no longer the child I borne and raised, therefore, how much of our lives do I sacrifice for someone I don't know and who doesn't want help?<br /><br />I so very tired...<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com