Well... that is both true and not true. You see, because we share the same problem, the same allergy and mental obsession, as well as many similar thoughts, feelings and life consequences/problems from our addiction and/or alcoholism (same thing), it is reasonable to assume that we also share a similar experience and similar challenges in attempting to get better. That is just common sense and logic. To say that it's totally different for everybody is not only ignorant, but foolish.
Addicts and alcoholics suffer from a life problem, a being a human being problem. We are addicted to comfort and have tremendous difficulty growing up, becoming adults, assuming personal responsibility and understanding that life isn't about us feeling good 24/7.
Sorry guys, hate to spoil the fun, but to be human is to experience a range of thoughts and feelings, some good, some bad. To be human is to face the many physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual challenges of living life. To be human is to suffer from time to time.
But what happens when a child wants what they want and don't get it? That's right, they whine, and this common experience of a child well defines being an alcoholic or an addict. We are essentially just children in adult bodies.
So to conquer the condition of juvenile narcissism, we become willing to feel what we're feeling, to become accountable for who we are, what we've become and what we've done to ourselves and others, to take responsibility for our needs and the needs of others, to roll up our sleeves, do some work and stop whining and complaining about everything.
Besides, nobody wants to be around a constant complainer. It is draining. Worse, we who dump our woes onto others have no idea just how selfish we are being. We have no idea that we are sucking other people dry, robbing them of their own time, energy, patience and love. Trust me, nobody wants to hear it and nobody cares. They actually have their own lives, challenges and struggles to deal with. Imagine that.