Thursday, February 26, 2015
Some Truths About Addiction
People often say that my experience with addiction is only true for me and I should shut up for being so stupid and irresponsible, but despite the noise, because we pathetic junkies and alcoholics all share the same problem, it is reasonable to assume that we also share a similar experience in a host of other ways.
Others hate that I mention AA and am "so public". Hold on, let me get you guys a pity pot to cry in. Let me also ask you, what's wrong with educating the general public about the miracle of the Twelve Steps? Are you feeling okay? Right, let's hoard this wonderful solution and prevent people from getting better. Great idea. Let's even prevent broken parents and spouses from finding peace. Please. That is selfish, misguided and idiotic.
Some truths about addiction...
1) The notion that we never ever wanted to be taken over by this evil force is pure fiction.
Um, we wouldn't be addicts if we didn't love to use drugs. Addicts love drugs. Alcoholics love alcohol. That's why we're addicts. Addicts want to be addicts... until they don't, of course. If you have been convinced otherwise, please remove the 'everybody's a victim' collectivist propaganda from your brain.
2) Addicts are either recovered or not at all - there are no grey areas, no in between.
If the obsession has been lifted, the risk of relapse is zero (regardless of the abnormal bodily reaction of an addict) and remains that way so long as the addict maintains his or her condition of sanity. If the obsession has not been lifted, they are subject to relapse at any time.
3) No substitution or psychiatric drug has ever nor will ever change an addict.
You may think some drug is helping your addict, but trust me, it is not. Relapse is guaranteed, unless you want to actually call being high as shit on methadone for the rest of your life sobriety, let alone recovery. Remaining jammed on methadone is no different than being high and addicted to anything else, and if your addict tells you differently, they have successfully lied to you in an effort to stay lit up like a Christmas tree while keeping you off of their back.
4) Behavioral science doesn't understand that treating the body of an addict and the symptoms of addiction isn't what keeps us sober. It is the mind that must be treated, not the body. The abnormal physical reaction to drugs and alcohol is permanent.
The science of addiction - the body of an addict and his or her chemistry as it relates to drugs and alcohol - is irrelevant. The problem centers in the mind, and if the mind doesn't change, there is no recovery. If the broken mind is restored and we regain the power of choice, and if the power of choice is maintained by tending to our souls, we can simply choose to stay sober for the rest of our lives. And yes, most of the time, the truly hopeless addict will need to access the power of God to regain the power of choice.
Science and current academia fail to address the very crux of our problem, the mental problem, which is astounding, though not surprising given the general view of academia that being jobless and 200k in debt but "well educated" means you are absolutely brilliant while actually working or becoming financially successful means you are an absolute moron. Ass backwards, yes, but in America today, failure is rewarded while success is punished... if you can fathom such a thing.
5) There is no such thing as a trigger... other than breathing (i.e. being alive).
Nothing outside of us triggers us to use. Addicts want to use all the time - before, during and after exposure to any so-called trigger. If your addict is currently in treatment and the counselors are making them write down all of their triggers, you should have them come home and try to get a refund. Any list of 'triggers' is simply made up.
Avoiding people, places and things that make us want to use is not a solution, a) because people, places and things aren't what make us want to use, and b) because even if that were true, you need to essentially imprison and isolate yourself to get through life, and um... WTF kind of solution is that?
Should I go on? I have to be honest... when stacked up against the status quo, this is starting to feel like a waste of time. I will, however, finish the Anybody Can Take Steps book and after that, who knows. There are so few people who really want to hear someone discuss addiction honestly...
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