Thursday, July 31, 2014

Working With Others

     "Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail. This is our twelfth suggestion: Carry this message to other alcoholics! You can help when no one else can. You can secure their confidence when others fail. Remember they are very ill.
     Life will take on new meaning. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends, this is an experience you must not miss." - Alcoholics Anonymous, p.89

     If there is one thing in this program that will lift you up and set you straight without fail, it is indeed working intensively with other alcoholics or addicts, and by working intensively, I mean procuring an untreated addict and taking them through the Twelve Steps as they are laid out in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. As the book states above, this is something you do not want to miss.

     Trust me, it is usually a bitter failure to chase people around, but hey, if that's what you need to do, do it. This is the silver bullet of the Steps. When all else fails, GO WORK WITH OTHERS. It will heal you. It is like injecting spiritual medicine. Let me tell you, you can either inject vivitrol or suboxone or methadone, or you can inject the spiritual medicine of helping others. You can inject science or you can inject God. You can inject poison or you can inject love. The choice is yours.

     If you spend all of your free time taking other addicts through this process, you will not fail. Conversely, if you waste your time getting jammed on methadone, you won't make it. Nobody has ever truly recovered without giving of themselves, and specifically, without helping other addicts recover.

     Furthermore, if we fail to equip our sponsee with the proper tools and lay down the path to spiritual freedom, there is no point in sponsoring anyone. Today, the millions of AA goers and our communist friends in Hollywood have turned AA into a cliche' - the meeting room, the sad story, the sobriety chip, and the sponsor who gabs away on the phone and drags his sponsee to a meeting after confidently delivering the only advice he has: "You need a meeting, pal."

     None of this has anything to do with the original program of spiritual action that is Alcoholics Anonymous. The Twelve Step process is a mind-blowing and life-changing process if done thoroughly and fearlessly, but today sponsorship is a joke. If someone approaches you in AA or NA and they have not taken steps and recovered themselves, they have no business sponsoring anyone and you will be led down a road to nowhere. In fact, they may very well help to facilitate your relapse and possible death, as they have not shown you the solution or enabled you to find God.

God, please bring me the opportunity to help others...

3 comments:

  1. I finished your book! It is now one of my favorites and let me tell you there are not too many I have not read. I thought Vivitrol was a magic solution - at $1350.00 per month I was praying it would be. It was what my son called a "miracle shot" but he would not work on himself - the Dr told him he had to have a program or he would not stay sober. After finishing your book I could never see my son going through the steps you to achieve sobriety. My son got his first shot at the end of December 2013 within a few months I knew something was different. He stopped drinking and using Heroin alright but started using Meth and anything else that he could. He had his last shot a few weeks ago. I told him no more - he doesn't want to be sober. He says, "No please Mom I need that shot - I don't want to go back to using H - I am not addicted to Meth I just do it a few days a week!" Truly an addict thinking I guess.

    I am starting school this week to get my CADAC as well. I want to work with Parents.

    Can you say what treatment center you went to? If my son ever decides he is ready that one or one like it sounds amazing. He is very spiritual by nature he is Native American - I would love to be able to take information about a spiritual program and a non-traditional 12 step to the addiction center.

    Thank you.

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    1. Tori, Thanks again for reaching out. I'm so grateful that you read the book. Do me a favor and email me privately and I'd be honored to give you the information. Good work on the CADAC. I just took a father (POA) through the Steps so he could work with other parents... how could I say no? What a great service you are doing. Bless you. Email can be found on the book website - theprivilegedaddict.com

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  2. I could not get through to the website. It kept saying it was not available. I sent you an email to capeabody3@gmail.com. That is so great that you are helping a POA. I wish you had meetings where I live!

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