What's so dangerous about this commonly accepted way of thinking is that if we grow up and continue to hold others responsible for the way we feel, we will become spiritually ill (besides becoming narcissistic). We will begin to think of ourselves as victims and eventually let other people, institutions, or the State itself make decisions for us and take care of us. Thinking this way is a big mistake, and it is reflective of a false way of thinking, perhaps on a macro scale.
We will all make such mistakes (especially me), but the question for addicts is do we want to become better everyday? If we don't or if we simply don't care, then we have no business trying to get sober and no business in the Steps. The people we have spit on, trampled, and stolen from all of these years deserve either all or nothing. Why even bother trying to white-knuckle it if we're still going to be an angry, manic, bored, frustrated, depressed and selfish loser? Who wants to be around that?
I'm pretty sure our spouses and families don't.
God, please rid me of self and make me a better man today...