Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Why Addicts Can't Stay Sober


 1) The mental obsession. A mere sober addict is still completely insane and subject to relapse. Sober-only addicts will experience thoughts to drink or use that do not respond to ration or reason. We can, however, remove this obsession through spiritual action and achieve lifelong sobriety, free from the danger of relapse. But if we don't change, if we don't restore ourselves to sanity and re-acquire the power of choice, we have no chance in hell.

     Usually the removal of such a condition requires divine intervention. To be more accurate, the result of our sincere work and desire to change may induce the power of God to remove our obsession, as man-made remedies simply aren't capable of such a task. There is no pill nor any expert that can remove this obsession. There is no pill that can make an insane man sane. And most importantly, the addict himself is not capable of removing his obsession. The combination of his insanity and his total loss of willpower leave him incapacitated. If you don't believe me, feel free to try going from a chronic and hopeless drug addict to completely and utterly free inside for the rest of your life on your own volition. And by free I mean zero urge or desire to self-destruct + inner peace and contentment.

2) We still want to feel good in sobriety. Therefore, everything the addict does after getting sober is simply to feel good or to achieve maximum comfort. If we fail to rid ourselves of this attitude, this comfort addiction and this selfish frame of mind, then we have no chance.

3) Happiness, success and normalcy are too unfamiliar. Addicts have complacently adjusted to a status quo of chaos, failure and sabotage. It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks. However, if an addict is going to make it, he or she must embrace and get used to things working out. Things aren't suddenly working out because of magic, they're working out because we're doing the right thing.

4) Refusing to act morally and to make things right. If we fail to sincerely make our amends to spouses, family, friends, colleagues, institutions and creditors, then we have no chance. We will soon fall spiritually ill and relapse. Furthermore, if we don't change the way we conduct ourselves on a daily basis, we will rapidly move backwards and become ill. We must change the way we think, speak and act. There is no staying sober without living by spiritual principles and treating others with kindness, love, tolerance and respect. We must also never ignore requests for our service. If the people in our lives need our help, we must always respond. Failure to do so, failure to become other-centered will crush our conscience once again and we will surely relapse.

5) Failure to continue growing spiritually. If we truly want to change and grow and recover, then we must continue to evolve spiritually. That means we must continue writing inventory and reading it. It means we must continue praying. It means we must continue meditating. It means we must help other addicts when the opportunity presents itself. To remain sane and free from addiction, we must continue to work on not just our outer lives, but our inner lives as well. Stillness, prayer and meditation are crucial for the mind and heart of an addict. Failure to maintain our inner health will also result in eventual relapse.

See also: Addiction is a Spiritual ProblemComfort AddictsNever Give UpAddicts Are Cowards, Courage or Cowardice? & Are You Free?

God, teach me that You love me...

1 comment:

  1. Hi Charles, this post is right on! we just spoke on the Jay Severin show.. thank you so much for your encouraging words.. I pray I can surrender my will to God and stay clean this time for good.. I know I need to change and hope I can proudly tell you I changed my ways in a few months and be able to give real love to the ones around me.. I would love if we can keep in touch in some way, though you probably have many people asking for help.. I can still hope to communicate with you in some way because your words gave me strength and raised my spirit.. Only recently I understood how much conversing with like (sick) minded people as yourself will help me enormously to live in peace with my addictive nature. I will read your book and I'm on the first step of the twelve, admitting to myself and my loved ones of the true nature of my addiction (which I'm learning more about everyday). Wish we could talk more but for now.. God bless you and your family (your son and mine are 2 month apart ;)).. take care and stay clean just for today for the rest of your life.. Amen! much love. Eyal, Tel-Aviv

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