Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Want To Stop But Can't

     As I stood, emaciated and dope-sick, staring into the broken bathroom mirror of the shithole real estate office I worked for, I finally wanted to change but had reached the point of no return. When you want to stop but can't, that's when you know you're screwed. No hope, no will, no energy, no power... and worst of all, no solution. I'd already tried every imaginable remedy to get better and fix myself but failed miserably every time. I tried therapy, pills, relationships, traveling, jobs, herbs, homeopathy, self-help books, AA & NA meetings, and on and on.

     I drank and used for fifteen years until I was sick, spiritless, incoherent, numb and careless. My depression was so great that it wouldn't let me go. It was like I had fallen in wet cement and woke up one day to find myself immovable. Officially unsalvagable.

     It was only because I was financially broke that I finally dragged myself to detox. Once physically sober, I decided to go up North, but that was mainly because my wife, mother, and some bitter social worker lady wouldn't stop bitching at me. So to shut everyone up, I went. Perhaps I knew deep inside that if I walked out of detox, I was a dead man. Or maybe it was a simple case of divine intervention.

     It wasn't long before my entire attitude changed. After meeting a recovered addict for the first time, I not only wanted to change, but for the first time in my life, I became willing to do anything it took to accomplish that. No thought, feeling, relationship, circumstance or life event was going to stop me, regardless of how dark or horrifying.

     So my advice to addicts is: At some point it will really help your cause if you WANT to change. I believe with all my heart that if we truly want to change and are willing to go to any lengths, the universe will conspire to bring us opportunities to make that happen. God is there for us... we just need to get over ourselves and then humbly and wholeheartedly ask Him for help.

     I was reading Proof of Heaven the other night and it amazed me that the same thought came into my head as I faced death. In 1996, after being hit by a drunk driver plowing the wrong way down the highway, I regained consciousness some two days later in the ICU unit at Mass General. I couldn't move or see. I knew something was terribly wrong. After realizing my predicament, the first thought that went through my head was, God help me. I suppose the Big Book is right when it says that God or God-consciousness is simply fundamental to our make-up as human beings.

God, please teach me to let go of Self...

2 comments:

  1. his route..my AS detoxed then went North NOW telling us he really wasn't ready.BUT finished 28 days in PH then 1yr at sober house and now his own apartment[1 month]was he at rock bottom,out of money tired of living in car,just plain tired?Perhaps now he has tools he never had before,including the path to finding some kind of peace for today.Thank you for sharing.

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  2. So if you are already financially broke and still have not drug yourself into rehab, then its likely either going to be a sickness or death that gets u sober is that it? The actual crippling depression isn't enough of a bottom we have to REALLY have it bad?

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